Fri, Sept 16th
One of the hardest, yet fulfilling things an anxious person can do is openly talk about their anxiety (especially guys it seems).
Guys, I get it, we have this whole fucking masculine way about us that we think we have to protect, but if you suffer from anxiety, bottling this shit up is dangerous as hell. Look, no one is going to take away your man card because you express yourself, because you think it’s “girly.” Bottling this shit up, is what leads to us men lashing out physically – here wall, have a fist!
Yes, talking about anxiety, feels awkward and the thought of it alone, can make you feel anxious. But it will change everything. The more open I became about anxiety, the better it got. Parents, friends, girlfriend/boyfriend, therapist, groups, this group, start talking to someone.
Watch how not only will your anxiety around them lessen after, but your relationship with that person will likely be even stronger. Think of it this way, short term anxiety now (making the decision to talk about it openly) for far less anxiety down the road (now that you’re open about it).
Thurs, Sept 16th
There’s a large misconception about treating or dealing with anxiety. Anxiety is often seen as a battle to be won or lost, an enemy to destroy.
So we fight, attack, and resist anxiety when it comes. But as the saying goes, what you resist, persists. By trying to stop or fight anxiety, we actually make it worse.
The key is acceptance and surrender. Now I get it, surrender sounds like a scary word. Shit, anyone who has dealt with an anxiety knows this is far easier said then done. But it takes practice. Yes, I know it feels like shit, but the simple act of just recognizing the feeling and letting it pass, makes all the difference.
You can’t fully prevent initial anxiety from creeping up on you, but you can control how long that uncomfortable feeling lasts. And if you want it to end quickly (uh fuck yes please), let it run it’s course and pass through you. If you do that, I guarantee it will pass significantly faster then if you resist.
In the moment, tell yourself “this feeling is uncomfortable and sucks, but it’ll pass and I’ll be fine.” Because it’s true, you’ll always be fine.
Wed, Sept 14th
“I love fear. Why? because on the other side of fear is the person we want to become”
There’s isn’t a person alive who doesn’t have fears. A person who claims to be without fears is not someone who is honest about who they are and chooses to repress that fear from the public eye and often times, from themselves.
In fact, by not knowing your fears you are that much more controlled by them. They have become such a part of your identity that you don’t fully see them as fears, but rather just part of “who you are.”
But the moment you are open and honest with yourself about your fears, is the exact moment they begin to lose some power over you and you learn how to live with it.
Now notice what I said. Live with it. A huge misconception about fears and anxieties is that they are a battle to be won and lost, an enemy that needs to be destroyed, something to resist and run away from or to pretend like it’s not there. But this is completely wrong, doing this actually makes the fear even stronger.
Your fears are not something to run from or destroy. In fact, the total opposite. They are something to explore, identify, understand, accept, get intimate with, and fully embrace. Yes, the very idea of getting close to your fears is…well, scary. But you will learn more about yourself by understanding your fears, then anything else in your life.